If you believe in heaven and hell..?

how do you suppose you'll feel having a jolly great time in heaven, while the sinners of the world including your loved ones are suffering in the fiery pits of hell? surely you couldn't feel real joy and contentment knowing of others suffering? and its not like you can just forget.. if this is to be the case then heaven isn't really perfect at all.. and therefore God is not the perfect God of love as we know Him! what are your reflections on this? :)